My sister was my mother’s favorite… until my father’s last message
There are houses that look like houses from the outside but are prisons on the inside. Not prisons with bars, prisons with words, looks, comparisons, silences that last for years. This story is about one of those houses. It tells the story of two girls raised by the same woman, under the same roof, but in two completely different worlds.
She speaks of an injustice that many of you are already familiar with, perhaps in your own family. And she talks about the day everything changed. Before we continue, if you’re watching this video and you’re not already subscribed, click the subscribe button now and tell me in the comments where you’re watching from.
Are you in Cameroon, France, Belgium, Senegal, Ivory Coast, or Canada? Show yourself. I also liked this video, it really helps me to keep going. Now, get comfortable because this story is going to touch you in a way you least expect. In a neighborhood of Douala, there was a brick house with an inner courtyard where a mango tree grew.
An ordinary little house like thousands of others in this city. But inside this house lived a family whose silence hid things that no one on the outside could guess. The father’s name was Étienne. He was a man who had worked in transportation his entire life. He started with just one taxi, then he bought a second, then a third.
He had built something, not much in the eyes of the world, but something real, something concrete, something that belonged to him. Étienne was a discreet man. He spoke little. He liked to sit in the evening under the mango tree with his radio and listen to the news. The people in the neighborhood respected him because he didn’t make noise and he kept his word when he said something.
The mother’s name was Giselle. She was a tall, well-dressed woman who liked things to be in their place. She was known in the neighborhood as a strong woman. She went to church every Sunday. She greeted everyone with a big smile. She offered to drink their challenge. But in her house, a different Giselle lived.
A Giselle that only these girls truly knew. They had two daughters, Sandrine, the eldest, and Nadège, the youngest. They were only two years apart. But between them, there was a chasm that the years had only widened. Sandrine was the favorite. Everyone knew it, even if no one said it out loud. Sandrine was beautiful, with a beauty that people noticed immediately.
Tall, fair-skinned, with hair that’s always well- groomed. She knew how to walk into a room and attract attention. Giselle looked at her with a pride she didn’t even try to hide. When visitors came to the house, it was Sandrine she would push forward. It was her that she presented with a smile that lit up her whole face.
Sandrine went to a private school near Bonapriso. Sandrine had the new outfits before the old ones were even worn out. Sandrine received pocket money that no one asked her to justify. Sandrine was entitled to everything and didn’t have to explain anything. Nadj, she was different. No help? But Nadje had a beauty that people took time to notice.
She was smaller, quieter, with eyes that observed everything before speaking. She read a lot, she loved mathematics. She always handed in her homework on time and often finished first in her class at the public school she was enrolled in because private school was only for Sandrine.
Nadj wasn’t complaining . She had learned very early on that complaining was pointless. She kept her tears under her blanket until nightfall when no one could hear. The way Giselle treated her two daughters was not something accidental. It wasn’t a distraction. It was not forgetfulness. It was a choice. A choice that Giselle made every morning when she got up.
She had decided long ago that Sandrine was the family’s investment. She believed that Sandrine, with her beauty and looks, would find a rich husband, settle in a beautiful house, and bring money and prestige back into the family. That’s what she saw when she looked at her eldest son. A ticket to a better life.
And Nadège, in that calculation, didn’t really count. The problem with this logic is that it caused harm when spoken aloud. Giselle did not simply favor Sandrine in silence. She said it, she repeated it. She built up a little humiliation for Nadj every day as if those words were normal, as if hurting her child was an acceptable thing.
During an ordinary meal, one weeknight, Nadj had said that she wanted to become an engineer. She said it in a soft, almost timid voice, as if she didn’t know if she had the right to dream. Giselle had looked up from her plate. She looked at her daughter and said, “Engineer with your results.” Sandrine had laughed. Étienne had said nothing and Nadj had lowered her head and never again spoken of her dreams at the table.
On another occasion, during a family meal where cousins and aunts were present, Giselle had spoken about the future of her daughters. She had said, with the same ease with which one talks about the weather, even domestic, Sandrine will succeed better than Nadèch in life. Everyone around the table laughed. Not a mean laugh, no, an embarrassed laugh, the kind of laugh you make when you don’t know what else to say.
But Nadje hadn’t laughed. She swallowed her saliva, stared at her plate, and finished her meal in silence. That night, she had cried for a long time in her room. Not because his mother had humiliated him in front of everyone, but because no one, absolutely no one in that room, had thought it necessary to say that it was not right to talk about one ‘s child like that. Étienne could hear everything.
Étienne saw everything. But Étienne was a man whom life had worn down. He had started experiencing chest pains a few months prior. He slept poorly. He was having trouble breathing. Sometimes he knew that something was wrong with his body, but he put off the idea of going to see a doctor because deep down, he was afraid of what they would tell him.
So he remained silent. He watched his wife, he watched his daughter suffer, and he remained silent . That’s what would weigh most heavily on his conscience later on. Not what he had done, but what he had not done. On Sandrine’s birthday, Giselle had organized a party, not a small family gathering, a real party. She had rented chairs and tables.
She had ordered a large three-tiered cake. She had invited people from the neighborhood, colleagues, and members of the church. There was music, lights, and new outfits for everyone. Sandrine was radiant at the center of it all, dressed in an orange dress that her mother had bought for her at the central market.
She laughed, she danced, she received gifts with that way she had of smiling as if the world was owed to her. Three weeks later, it was Nadj’s birthday. Nothing happened . No cake, no party, not even a word in the morning. Giselle got up, prepared breakfast, gave her instructions for the day and went out to do her shopping like any other day.
No one said happy birthday to Nadj, not even Étienne, who that morning was too absorbed by her chest pain to think about anything else. Nadj went to school, she came home, she did her homework, she helped prepare dinner and in the evening before going to sleep, she wrote something short in her little notebook .
She wrote today, I turned 17. I sometimes wonder if my mother really thinks I’m her daughter. She closed the notebook, turned off the light, and fell asleep. What no one knew at that time, what even Étienne hadn’t yet clearly understood, was that Nadj had started working in secret. For several months, she had been giving private lessons to children in the neighborhood after school.
She also took small sewing orders on weekends from a remote woman who had taught her to sew. She didn’t spend the money she earned on herself. She would buy her father’s medication when the pain returned and he had no more money. She sometimes paid the water and electricity bills when the family was in need without Giselle really knowing.
She did it without expecting thanks, without telling anyone, because that’s just how she was. Nadj, she loved with her actions and she didn’t need everyone to know it . Sandrine, for her part, had finally found a man, an older man, in his forties, who drove a nice car and lived near Bonamusadi. Giselle had received him at home with a joy she didn’t even try to hide.
She had gotten up at 5 a.m. to prepare the meal. She had brought out the beautiful tablecloth. She had dressed up the whole house as if for a ceremony. When the man had left, she told her neighbors that life would finally smile on her family thanks to Sandrine. But what Giselle didn’t see was that this man didn’t come with good intentions.
He came with money, yes, but he also came with habits. He came with a way of treating Sandrine like an object that one possesses. And Sandrine, who had grown up receiving everything without ever learning to distinguish truth from falsehood, did not have the tools to understand that she was walking towards something bad.
Meanwhile, Étienne’s health was really deteriorating. He was hospitalized on a Tuesday morning after collapsing in the courtyard in front of the mango tree. Nadj was there when it happened. She had called for help. She had accompanied her father to the emergency room. She had stayed by her side all night while Giselle went home because she said she couldn’t sleep in her hospital chairs.
Sandrine, she didn’t come at all that evening. She had said she had something planned. The doctors spoke of serious heart problems. They said that surgery was necessary. The operation cost money. A lot of money that the family didn’t have easily. Giselle began calling people to look for solutions.
Sandrine said she was going to ask her husband. But the days passed and Sandrine’s money did not come . It was Nadj who paid a large part of the expenses with her savings, with the money she had put aside for months by depriving herself of everything. She went to see the hospital director. She negotiated a payment schedule.
She signed the papers. She did all of this discreetly. When Giselle asked where the money came from, she was told it was arranged. She didn’t ask too many questions. She was relieved and that was enough for her. Étienne knew from his hospital bed; he had seen Nadèche sign the papers. He had seen his daughter, the same daughter as his wife, constantly compared to a servant, the one who had been forgotten on her birthday, the one who had been humiliated in front of everyone, the one whose dreams had been mocked at the table. He
had seen that girl use her savings to save his life and he had cried, but not in front of her. But only in the evening, when the nurses had left and the hospital corridors were silent, did Étienne recover. The operation went well. He returned home months later, thinner, slower, but alive. During this period of convalescence, he had plenty of time to think.
He called a notary he had known for a long time. They had several long and serious conversations. Étienne wrote his will with a clarity he hadn’t had for years. He signed, he put the documents away and he kept it to himself. Meanwhile, Sandrine’s life was beginning to fall apart. The man with the beautiful car had begun to show himself as he truly was. He often shouted.
He controlled the money. He had forbidden Sandrine from seeing certain friends. Sandrine, who had always been used to things going her way, didn’t know how to deal with someone who wouldn’t give in to her smile. She returned home twice with marks on her arms which she hid under her long sleeves. Giselle noticed, but said nothing because this man had a nice car and a nice house and she didn’t want to shatter what she had built in her mind as the glorious future of her family.
What happened next, nobody in the neighborhood really expected. One evening, while the whole family was gathered for dinner, Sandrine announced that she was leaving to live permanently with her man. She said it coldly, as if she were reading a shopping list. Then she said that she had already organized everything. She also said that she had taken money from the living room drawer, the one where Étienne always kept a small reserve for emergencies.
a substantial sum. She said she needed it to settle in. She did not ask for permission. She did not apologize. She grabbed her bag, said goodbye and left. Giselle was speechless. For the first time in years, Giselle’s face no longer knew what expression to take. She remained seated at the table, her hands placed flat on the tablecloth, her eyes fixed on the door through which Sandrine had just left.
Étienne took a sip of water and said nothing. Nadèch got up quietly, cleared the plates and went to do the dishes. In the weeks that followed, Sandrine did not call back. When Giselle called her, she sometimes answered briefly and hung up quickly. When Giselle asked to come and visit her, Sandrine said she was busy.
When Giselle tried to talk to her about the stolen money, Sandrine said she had only taken what was rightfully hers and cut off the communication. Giselle found herself facing something she had never anticipated. She had given everything to Sandrine. All his energy, all his preference, all his pride.
And Sandrine had left with the family’s money without looking back. It was during this difficult period that Nadèj continued to do what she had always done. She took care of the house. She was checking her father’s medication. She paid what needed to be paid. She never says ” I told you so.” She didn’t make a scene. She was there simply as she had always been there, discreetly and efficiently in the shadows.
Étienne watched all this from his armchair under the mango tree. He looked at his wife, he looked at Nadj and he thought about the will he had signed in the hospital. He spoke to Nadj about it one evening, alone together, while Giselle was at a church meeting. He didn’t tell her everything.
He simply told her this: “I know what you did for me. I haven’t forgotten.” Nadj replied, “You are my father, I only did my duty.” And Étienne raised his head with that small, sad smile he’d had since the operation. A few months later, Étienne had a relapse less serious than the first time, but enough to remind him that his body had its limits.
He summoned the notary to the house. He checked the documents one last time. He signed the necessary confirmations. He did this privately in his room with the notary and a trusted witness. Giselle had gone out to the market that morning. The day of the reading of the will was about a year after Stephen had died peacefully in his sleep on a Thursday in January.
His death was peaceful and without suffering. Nadj was in the house when it happened. She was the first to find it. Lying in his bed, his hand resting on his chest, his face calm. The reading of the will took place at the notary’s office in the Aqua district. Giselle was there in her beautiful Sunday best, convinced she knew what the papers would say.
She was convinced that the house belonged to her, that the land that Étienne owned outside the city belonged to her, that the taxis belonged to her. She had even already started making plans in her head. Sandrine was there too, having suddenly returned since the previous week, smiling, well dressed, as if the months of silence had never existed.
She had either reconciled with her man or she had left him. No one really knew, but there she was, sitting with her legs crossed, looking like someone waiting to receive what belongs to her. Nadj was sitting apart, her hands resting on her knees, her eyes downcast. She was n’t expecting anything in particular. The notary began to read.
He read it slowly with the precision of someone who knows that the words he speaks will change lives. The family home, official documents, land outside the city, vehicles and a sum of money deposited in a bank in Nadezhda. The whole thing. It was specified in the will that Étienne had made this decision after long and careful consideration and that these reasons were related to the behavior of each of his daughters and his wife towards the family over the years.
The document contained a handwritten letter that Étienne had written himself, which the notary read aloud . In this letter, Étienne wrote that Nadj had secretly paid for his medication for years, that Nadj had financed a large part of his operation with his own savings, that Nadj had never abandoned the family, even when the family had given him nothing in return.
He wrote that Sandrine had stolen money from the house and left without looking behind her. He wrote that Giselle, despite all her love for her family, had made a profound mistake in treating her two daughters differently and that he hoped she would one day understand why that decision had been made. He said that this will was not a punishment, it was a recognition because Nadj deserved to be recognized.
The notary’s office was silent for several seconds after the reading was finished. Then Giselle spoke. Her voice sounded different than usual. It was no longer the confident voice of the woman who always knew what she wanted. It was a voice searching for its words, no longer knowing where to settle.
She said it was a mistake. She said the notary must have made a mistake. She said that Étienne could not have wanted that. She half stood up from her chair and then sat back down. She looked at Sandrine as if seeking support. Sandrine didn’t look at her. Sandrine was looking at the notary’s office with an expression that no one in that room could easily have described.
Nadèj said nothing. She received the documents that were handed to her . She put them in her bag. She thanked the notary. She stood up. She went out into the street. She stopped on the sidewalk in front of the office and stayed there for a moment. Eyes raised towards the sky. The heat of Douala on her face. She wasn’t crying.
She wasn’t smiling either. She was simply breathing like someone who has just put down a very heavy weight that they had been carrying for a very long time. In the weeks that followed, Giselle went through several states. First, she called family members to tell them what had happened, hoping to find allies.
Some defended him out of habit. Others, those who had seen Nadèche working in silence for years, saying nothing or saying things that Giselle did not want to hear. Then there was the attempt to get closer to Sandrine, but Sandrine was difficult to reach and then unreachable. Then Giselle learned from a cousin that Sandrine had gone to Yaoundé with someone new. She didn’t call again.
Giselle found herself alone with the reality of what she had done. She had two daughters, one whom she had adored, protected, spoiled, and celebrated, and one whom she had ignored, compared, humiliated, and rejected. The first one had left with the family’s money and stopped calling .
The second one had endured everything without ever complaining and had still paid for her father’s medication. One evening, several weeks after the reading of the will, Giselle showed up at Nadj’s house, who was now living in the family home. She rang the bell. The door opened. Nadj looked at her without any particular expression. There was no grand scene, no scream, no spectacular reconciliation with cinematic tears.
Nadj let his mother in. She prepared some tea. She sat down at the table. Giselle spoke for a long time. She says things she’s never said before. She did not apologize with the exact words one might have wanted to hear, but she spoke. And for Giselle, that was already something new. Nadj listened. She did not cry.
She didn’t scream either . She told her mother that she forgave him. Not because what she had done was without consequence, but because carrying resentment for the rest of her life was too costly. She said she wasn’t going to forget, but that she was going to keep moving forward . She said the door to the house wasn’t closed, but things couldn’t go back to the way they were.
It took time and sincerity. Giselle returned home that evening with something different in her eyes. Not peace, no, not yet, but perhaps the beginning of understanding what she had lost and how she had lost it. Nadj, she continued her life. She kept her father’s taxis and found someone reliable to manage them.
She resumed her studies, which she had had to interrupt, and enrolled in a business management course. She didn’t boast about what she owned. She didn’t flaunt it. She simply lived with that calm dignity she always had, even when no one saw her. She often thought of her father under the mango tree, of the way he had looked at her in the hospital when she had signed the papers to pay for the operation.
She thought of those words he had said to her one New Year’s Eve under the stars of Douala. I know what you did for me. I haven’t forgotten. His father had seen it. Even when the rest of the family was looking the other way, his father had seen. And that, no will could take from him, no injustice could erase.
It was hers. Forever. What this story has taught me personally is that the love that hurts the most is not that of the enemy. It’s the parent who chooses to ignore you even though they see you every day. There is something particularly hurtful about being rejected by one’s own mother. Because your mother is supposed to be the first person who sees you, who recognizes you, who tells the world that you exist and that you matter.
When that person compares you, belittles you, prefers someone else, the wound goes very deep. Nadje in this story represents all those who grew up in the shadow of someone else. All those who gave without receiving, all those who continued to love even when love was not returned. His silence was not weakness.
His silence was a form of strength that many people are unable to possess. Giselle, she represents something important too. She represents her parents who love in their own way, who make calculations with their children as if the children were investments and who one day find themselves with empty hands because they have been looking in the wrong direction from the beginning.
She wasn’t bad at heart. She was blind, and blindness can do as much damage as malice. What I like most about this story is the ending. Nadj does not seek revenge. She doesn’t inflict suffering for the sake of suffering. She doesn’t forgive because she’s naive, but because she understood that true freedom is no longer carrying the weight of the people who hurt you.
She moves forward, she builds, she lives. And for me, this way of ending, it really touches me. Now, I have a question for you. Have you experienced this in your life, either directly or indirectly ? Were you the favorite child or the ignored child? Have you forgiven someone who hurt you deeply, or is that something you find impossible? Tell me what you think in the comments.
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